Common belief vs. common relationship — not common experience.

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“Experience” is a “touch of reality” modified by and perceived through the brain’s emotional filter. Three or more people in the same place at the same time may “share” a “common experience”, yet the perceptions and memories produced in their brains will differ — sometimes with a greater difference than night is from day!

Dylan Morrison [The Prodigal Prophet;] has observed over the years that religious or spiritual groups based on “common belief” seem to fragment almost as soon as they are established; I’ve observed that groups based on “common experience” are, if anything, even more unstable.

What, then, is left? What “foundation” is there which can bring stability to religious or spiritual groups?

Only one.

Should I say, “Only One”? As Paul writes in 1Cor 3.10f, there is but one foundation upon which the Body of Christ is being successfully built: “I laid a foundation as an expert builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one must build cautiously. For no-one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.

Jesus is not known by doctrine or teaching; He is not known by someone’s belief-system; He’s not even well-known by a person’s experience. Jesus is known personally, because He is a living person. Any group of people who come together other than through modest and personal relationships with Jesus Christ are bound to fail.

This is where understanding a relationship with Jesus is not the same as experiencing Jesus. Many people have or claim to have “experienced” Jesus — yet they have no abiding relationship with Him. There is a measure, a standard unit  which measures  the size, amount, and degree of a person’s relationship with Jesus. (There is no such “measure” by which a person’s doctrinal or strength of belief or faith or even experience may be so measured!)

What is this “measuring stick” of a person’s Jesus-relationship? It’s their love.

There are several places in Scripture where it’s clear that if we do not love as Jesus loved, we are not His children.

For example:

1Jn 3.10: “This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not a child of God; nor is anyone who does not love his brother. This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another.”

1Jn 3.14-16: “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who does not love remains in death. Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him. This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.”

Eph 5.1f: “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.”

1Jn 4.7f: Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

There are so many other passages that when someone tells me that God has “sent us here” in order to “save” the “lost”,  and I dare ask them to stack up their list of verses telling us that we’re here to “save the lost” against the verses telling us that we’ve been sent here to love as Jesus love… their list is not only smaller but holds lots of verses that are misread and/or misapplied. Love crushes “modern evangelism”.

Actually, Jn 13.34 has Jesus telling His followers, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.” This is the true basis for evangelism: not cleverly constructed and memorized dialogs, not cute little colored books; “Gospel Clowns”; or hellishly written tracts accusing the Pope of being the Anti-Christ and Hollywood the Beast (therefore you better love God or go to Hell forever and ever, everlasting torment, where the worm dieth not and the rich man (Dives) is apparently still begging for  drop of water to cool his tongue… and if THAT doesn’t persuade a person of God’s love, I don’t know what will…)Love like Jesus

Back to business: The only true, evangelistic basis given by Jesus through which everyone will know He’s the Son of God is that His followers love others as He Himself has loved others — for us to love as He loves.

It’s ’bout time we reconsider the paragraph up above: “This is where understanding a relationship with Jesus is not merely experiencing Jesus. Many people have or claim to have “experienced” Jesus — yet they have no abiding relationship with Him. There is a measure, a standard unit  which measures  the size, amount, and degree of person’s relationship with Jesus. (There is no such “measure” by which a person’s doctrinal or strength of belief or faith or even experience may be so measured!)”

And the only measure is how we love others — especially our enemies. (How’re you doing with that one lately? Do you even think of your enemies, much less spend time figuring out how to love them?)

If you’ve followed the reasoning up above, you can see why I say, ”
“What’s necessary for a group of people who come together spiritually [not religiously!] will never be able to remain united based merely on holding a common belief or claiming a common relationship — because all that will hold a group together in unity is love coming from a relationship with Jesus Christ.

You ever see people who truly are in love with one another find cause to separate? Oh, they’ll quarrel — and make up; they’ll fight sometimes — then go get a beer together and slap each other on the back as brothers should. But when love is lost, all that can hold them together is fear of separation, a conviction they’ll go to hell if they leave fellowship, common friends neither is willing to give up, &c.

People in love with one another and in love with Jesus go through thick and thin, misunderstanding and (worse) understanding, hard times and easy — and they go through it together, with healthy relationships holding one another up and bracing for the worst. (I know it’s possible! Our fellowship group has walked in that place of love for five or more years now — we know of that which we speak!)

I think Dylan Morrison also says this:
“I do also feel like what the religious call “fellowship” is anything but “fellowship” — which does leave us in difficult situation!!! In fact, I’ve found a helpful tip that whenever a christian I know comes from an institutional church talks to me about “church” I immediately change the topic to “Jesus”… and the conversation seems to go better!”

One person, Tony Yeoman, apparently struggling to stop being automatically “re-routed” into doctrinal or experiential challenges wondered if he just wasn’t “ready” to face fellowship in a “regular church”. He tried to understand today’s broken, divisive church by saying, “I guess the early church didn’t have much of these issues. Meanwhile; …..????”

Sorry, Tony Yeoman! Read Paul’s letters to the various people and groups he watched over as an apostle — none of them escaped these very problems with not loving Jesus (noticeable by not loving their visible brothers and sisters!) If Tony were able to travel 2,000+ years into the past and walk into one of the house fellowships [Gr. ekklesia] he’d find the same fallen human beings asking if he’s had an experience of Jesus like the one they had, or if he believed in the teachings of their older brothers and sisters.

No — the “solution” doesn’t exist 2,000+ years ago but today — today, tomorrow, and the day(s) afterwards. The “solution” to enjoying unity  amongst those who are following after Jesus Christ is simply this: love like Jesus Loves.

Emil Swift

BTW: Love will also bring about a whole lot’ta unity amongst people who aren’t even slightest interested in Jesus. Jesus’ love spreads everywhere — as long as there’s a starting place. Which of course will be you or me or anyone else able to allow the love of Jesus flow through them to their friends and their enemies! After all, its source is Jesus anyway, and flows only second-handed through any of us who so choose to allow His Spirit to love the unloved. es

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  1. Carol Deraita

    Well said!!! For that’s why He wants our hearts, that He might heal, that we might Love, not as the world loves, but as He Loves……. Good to see you writing… You inspire to spirit, soul searching and good thought. Blessings €:•}

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